comfortable girls

I can't take credit for the original notion of the "Comfortable Girl", it was something that was relayed to my by my friend Lindy and originally it came from one of her friends in New York or something, but it's an idea that's been all up in my brain lately and I'd like to put out there my thoughts on this matter.

A Comfortable Girl is basically that girl you know who is super comfortable in her skin in a way that most people you meet just aren't. We all know different kinds of Comfortable Girls, but their MO is more or less the same. They live with their boyfriend of six years in Santa Monica and have no plans of getting married, but this doesn't strike any fear in them. They are just happy being with their partner. They carry a big ass tub of tea tree balm in their purse and apply it frequently and liberally regardless of the situation they are in. In fact, their purse isn't a purse, it's a big ol' sack, and not in a Birkin sense, in a "free NPR tote" kind of way. They may have a personalized Moleskin their college roommate gave them "years ago" that they keep interesting articles about whales and dog parks in stuffed in the bag. There's probably also a Tupperware container of homemade tabbouleh in there that they will pull out and eat in line at the bank.

Comfortable Girls aren't high matenence in any sense, but they always look pretty because they have mastered the art of the stress-free glow. They can confidently accept a compliment and they are unaware of the insecurity this strikes in the other females around them. They are typically physically fit, and this could be because they are down to strike a yoga pose at any point. In fact, some of the most comfortable girls can manage to pull off a yoga outfit as actual clothing and not something you purchased to sweat into.

I'm not bashing these girls, I am in awe of them. To be able to walk through life without any visible neurosis is a skill that I will never be able to acquire.  I am a 24 year old chick who uses wrinkle cream because I need it, OK?  But I'm keeping it interesting with all my crazy bullshit, and the same goes for all the people I love the most and keep the closest to me. These Comfortable Girls are just spiritually in the Downward Dog position, they have no idea they are a threat to your average basketcase. Next time you're talking to one of these girls and you catch a whiff of their freshly baby shampoo-washed and air-dryed hair, think of what I just relayed to you and relax knowing that you're hip to their game.

Comments

[JennyExiled]

[this is good] Heh - word. Even (prescription) medicated to the nines, I'm a complete basket case. Naturally happy people make me nervous.

[Angela]

OMG. This girl is also the kind of girl your ex-boyfriend invariably dates right after you.

[Kendall]

i have to say molly, that you yourself possess many of these qualities.  in fact, i'm positive that more than a few view you as a comfortable girl.  how many can actually create something like what i wore would be hated and pull it off to internet acclaim?  just sayin. 

[molls]

Kendall, you and I both know I am fucking insane. Of all people, you should know this. 

[Kendall]

okay.  so irregardless.  I am kind of obsessed with this post and just read it to claire out loud on the phone.

[nurble]

So, having made it my business to date what you call "comfortable girls" (and what I, up until now, would call "normal girls", despite the fact that this term is completely misleading), I have a couple of theories that you've given me an excellent excuse to lay out here.

1) These girls that you see look comfortable and self-assured and display all of these outwardly awe-inspiring characteristics, but underneath it all are just as insecure and neurotic as everybody else.

2) I have a unique ability to take a comfortable, self-assured girl and turn her into a neurotic mess.

I really don't know which it is, though I suspect the latter.  I will say that no one I've ever met is as confident and low-maintenance as they seem, even when you've known them for years.  Once the sex starts, a little door in their brain opens up and the crazy flies out.

Personally, I like this.  I wouldn't trust anybody that didn't hold a little something back to cry about when they think nobody but their beloved is paying attention, but it means that when most people see a girl and think "damn, she's got her shit together and doesn't seem to have a care in the world" I see a girl and think "okay she seems cool, but she's totally going to end up bursting into tears after finding a discarded room key from a vacation I took 3 years before meeting her to a country I once mentioned had cute waitresses."

Or something.

[molls]

No, I mean, if we're generalizing here, these are also the women that have those obnoxious toddlers that have unusual vocabularies that can't identify Sesame Street characters and ask specifically for Miso crackers as a snack. I realize that they are equally fucked up in their own way, but the fact that it's such a chill, nonabrasive form of fucked up is kind of remarkable. It's just rare but distinct breed of lady, that's all.

Or something.

[dialmformarvel]

[this is good] I can I just say
fucking yes.

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